People are complicated animals to understand and this applies to folks we work with and live with. I am a Technologist who studied Social Sciences, so I am not a psychologist or faith healer.
I believe that we can understand and manage our environment when we apply integrated thinking and drill down to what “IS” the reality of ourselves and our environment. Not as we wish or hope it to be but what it “IS” and how we can make good choices and decisions to improve our sphere of influence whether is it our network of family, friends, and associates.
To become “enlightened” is to better understand ourselves including our gifts and limitations as we interact with others.